There are boundaries for a reason y'all!

When I was airing out my issues with my friend "A" a few days ago, I made mention of a future post. Well, here it is... There are boundaries for a reason. Apparently my friend "A" doesn't maintain such boundaries. She has always been like this ever since I can remember.

I have a belief. If you are with someone and especially if you love that person, there are certain things that stay between that couple. I feel that one of these things is your sex life. Now, don't get me wrong. Little tid-bits may come out here and there, but not anything of substance. Like I have never felt I was giving out substantial information about my sex life with my man when I've said that it is amazing and I've never complained once in the last nine plus years with the exception that due to certain circumstances it has been lacking lately. However, actual details of this part of our relationship are for him and I only. I think it keeps it special just for us...

Apparently my friend "A" doesn't see things the same way. She is currently with a guy who I don't think is the best choice, but I think that goes with so many of my friends. I guess I really am a mom because I often think that my friends could do so much better than the person they are with. I do not judge as I have become a believer in the fact that we can't always pick who we fall in love with. I get sometimes daily phone calls with very detailed information as to their sex life. I don't want to know such information.

I don't want to know that it takes your significant other between one and two hours before he can finish the job. I don't want to know whether you or he enjoys playing the back 9. I don't really want to know that you have a sex swing in your bedroom that your children have seen assembled. I don't need to know how many times you've attempted to get yourself some and how many times he has said no. I don't want to hear you say "we were both so horny put some porn on and started..."

I thought of a way that would stop such conversations. I told "A" that I thought maybe she had an addiction problem when it comes to sex since every single day I hear about her sex life. She proceeded to tell me that they only "do it" 1-2 x's a week compared to when they first started dating and they were doing it everyday. Um...yeah, I'm not talking about the sex itself. I'm talking about the fact that you talk about every single day. I can't think of a day that has went by that she hasn't mentioned her sex life.

I've always placed boundaries on my relationships, but maybe I'm the only one...